It’s a well known fact that Mildred is a glutton for punishment and a wee bit on the impulsive side, but for many years now (nine to be exact) she’s been in time out. In those nine years she’s done a lot of soul searching and has carefully examined all the bad choices she’s made in the past especially where love and men are concerned. Her last relationship was literally the straw that broke the camel’s back and sent her into the cozy hermitage in which she lives. Although it was a long distance relationship, it had many more factors going against it than just the distance factor. Those factors she overlooked until they shook her entire whole world.
Mildred is now on the threshold of embarking on another cruise upon the Love Boat, but this time she feels more equipped to handle the rough seas when she encounters them. The relationship she is forming is with someone she knew as a teenager. In fact, he’s the first male she ever kissed, but they didn’t have a relationship with each other until now. Due to the past, she occasionally has a knee jerk reaction. Maybe if she discusses long distance relationships in general, it’ll help her put and keep things in proper perspective where Mr. Right (MR) is concerned and it’ll help her not judge him by what someone else has done to her in the past. The following are things Mildred has learned about long distance relationships and relationships in general during her illustrious relationship history:
1. A person needs to listen to their instincts and do only the things they feel comfortable with doing.
2. Someone who truly cares about you won’t bully you or manipulate you into doing anything that goes against who you or what you believe in.
3. Being honest, no matter how hard it is will save a person a lot of frustration and grief in the long run.
4. If boundaries are set and expectations are discussed in the beginning, no one will be able to say "I didn't know you felt that way" or "I didn't know that's what you wanted."
5. Telephones and computers make communication easy and convenient, but should never replace communicating face to face.
6. Rational people don’t pick up and move far away leaving their family and friends behind for a new love interest unless the potential for a real future together is a possibility.
7. While it may be appealing, venturing into the unknown is always scary thing for anyone. Being patient is crucial while developing and sustaining a new relationship.
8. Maintaining a long distance relationship can easily cause a financial hardship.
9. Both people having the long distance relationship should travel and spend time with the other person. Being on someone else’s turf can be a very revealing thing about the other person. It's rather hard to get a realistic picture of who your new love interest is if you never see the person in the surroundings they call home.
10. Any successful relationship has to be built on trust and a long distance relationship will test that trust like no other.
11. If being distrustful and skeptical is in your nature, a long distance relationship will be a source of constant upheaval for both parties.
12. Long distance relationships are probably one of the hardest, but not impossible types of relationships to maintain successfully.
With all that said, I do think two people who are meant to be together will work out the details, so they can have a meaningful, committed relationship. I also believe that in any relationship there has to be sacrifices at times and going that extra mile for the other person is just part of it. In a long distance relationship it may mean going that extra several hundred miles and sometimes even thousands of miles. If you're willing to gamble and it feels right, then you definitely need to go for it! Don't always take the safe road in life...take a chance, but take that chance without being clueless. Don't walk into the dark without a flashlight to see your way. If it's meant to be that other person will hold your hand through the darkness and help show you the light at the end of the tunnel. If it's meant to be, you'll never feel alone, even when you are and you won't feel as if the relationship is all one-sided. A good relationship is always two-sided and always a work in progress.
OMG! That funny feeling Mildred keeps having isn't heartburn, but what can it be? She just took a long, deep breath and then exhaled... I think this might be the beginning of something interesting, so stay tuned to see what develops!