tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post1540390512781180562..comments2024-03-19T14:26:28.047-05:00Comments on Mildred Ratched Memoirs: MY TSUNAMIMildred Ratched http://www.blogger.com/profile/04705394337558739078noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-24424491217801893612023-01-25T09:46:58.092-06:002023-01-25T09:46:58.092-06:00You're welcome and I have written quite a bit ...You're welcome and I have written quite a bit on this subject in the past. There was a time when I couldn't even write the words let only say them.Mildred Ratched https://www.blogger.com/profile/04705394337558739078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-82954754235442842772023-01-25T09:45:09.310-06:002023-01-25T09:45:09.310-06:00Oh yes, it gets better with time if a person allow...Oh yes, it gets better with time if a person allows healing to happen. The things I write mainly are to reach out to others in similar situations. Mildred Ratched https://www.blogger.com/profile/04705394337558739078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-65692200081338683552023-01-25T09:43:29.559-06:002023-01-25T09:43:29.559-06:00You're absolutely correct but it happens more ...You're absolutely correct but it happens more than anyone can imagine.Mildred Ratched https://www.blogger.com/profile/04705394337558739078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-87406138243912456552023-01-25T09:42:47.568-06:002023-01-25T09:42:47.568-06:00Thank you and people should always be willing to l...Thank you and people should always be willing to listen to a sexual assault victims story when they are ready to step forward and tell it.Mildred Ratched https://www.blogger.com/profile/04705394337558739078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-79747208493870296062023-01-25T09:41:35.417-06:002023-01-25T09:41:35.417-06:00Yes, we all have our own path to recovery and for ...Yes, we all have our own path to recovery and for me it included forgiveness because I found that harboring all the negativity inside only hurt me. I had to find a way to let it go.Mildred Ratched https://www.blogger.com/profile/04705394337558739078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-79767075102064786702023-01-25T09:39:04.962-06:002023-01-25T09:39:04.962-06:00You hit the nail directly on its head!You hit the nail directly on its head!Mildred Ratched https://www.blogger.com/profile/04705394337558739078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-21087305116916077072023-01-23T14:23:03.381-06:002023-01-23T14:23:03.381-06:00Thank you for sharing, that was really brave of yo...Thank you for sharing, that was really brave of you to do. Hopefully that will help someone else as well.Mary Kirklandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04991095291522043588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-71792207924222341532023-01-23T02:56:44.186-06:002023-01-23T02:56:44.186-06:00It's now 10+ years later. Have things gotten b...It's now 10+ years later. Have things gotten better? I know it will never go completely away but maybe it doesn't surface as much anymore?Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00017192454403363349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-26459767741125601862023-01-22T20:30:28.641-06:002023-01-22T20:30:28.641-06:00It's something no child should ever have to go...It's something no child should ever have to go through.messymimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649529601786689712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-73243070892700886052023-01-22T20:24:56.147-06:002023-01-22T20:24:56.147-06:00Childhood sexual abuse ruins lives alright. I'...Childhood sexual abuse ruins lives alright. I'm so sorry you had to endure that trauma and pain.Debra She Who Seekshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01845703092794695023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-35746037276050333162023-01-22T19:43:40.078-06:002023-01-22T19:43:40.078-06:00For me, I think that knowing what happened to me a...For me, I think that knowing what happened to me as a three year old was wrong translated in my mind to thinking *I* had done wrong. My trauma was small in the general scheme of things, but it's still hard to admit. <br /><br />Not sure I agree with you about forgiveness, but I think we each find our own path to peace. Doesn't have to look the same to be valid.<br /><br />Amihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08353667980806676067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-82613266892695667852023-01-22T17:41:04.400-06:002023-01-22T17:41:04.400-06:00Hugs. The scars and the damage last a lifetime - w...Hugs. The scars and the damage last a lifetime - whether anyone else sees them or not.<br />Mind you, sometimes other people's actions (disbelief/praising the abuser) make them deeper and harder (so much harder) to heal.Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-14844687245394553812011-11-03T15:23:19.930-05:002011-11-03T15:23:19.930-05:00Sabio, that was supposed to read "thank you f...Sabio, that was supposed to read "thank you for dropping by and commenting."Mildred Ratched https://www.blogger.com/profile/04705394337558739078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-71914608790985419182011-11-03T12:32:14.990-05:002011-11-03T12:32:14.990-05:00Doug, as many times as I felt like I was drowning,...Doug, as many times as I felt like I was drowning, there's always been someone or something that has acted as a lifesaver and sometimes, that someone was myself. <br /><br />Sabio, thank you for dropping by commenting.Mildred Ratched https://www.blogger.com/profile/04705394337558739078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-9978396321943842742011-11-03T02:59:18.715-05:002011-11-03T02:59:18.715-05:00Well written and shared, Mildred, thanx. Perhaps ...Well written and shared, Mildred, thanx. Perhaps your short post will help others to recognize the opportunity to comfort people they know who are still only giving slight signals.Sabio Lantzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12963476276106907984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-69635447990653087422011-11-02T17:57:25.536-05:002011-11-02T17:57:25.536-05:00I have several close friends who went through the ...I have several close friends who went through the pain of which you speak. They trusted me enough to reveal their pain to me. It's a truly helpless feeling to be able to do little more in return than offer a friendly ear and shoulder and genuine concern. I admire you, my friends, and every abused person who refuses to allow these evils to destroy them.Doug Bhttp://gropingtheelephant.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-26144674001964125032011-11-02T16:58:56.345-05:002011-11-02T16:58:56.345-05:00Jnuts, it's a rough road to hoe, isn't it?...Jnuts, it's a rough road to hoe, isn't it? You know what? I think we're pretty spectacular just the way we are!<br /><br />Ahab, thanks for your concern and yes, I have spent many hours in therapy over the course of my life dealing with this issue and others. It no longer has a stranglehold effect on my life.Mildred Ratched https://www.blogger.com/profile/04705394337558739078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-49148159983100882202011-11-02T16:54:53.766-05:002011-11-02T16:54:53.766-05:00Muffy, thank you for your kind words and yes, for ...Muffy, thank you for your kind words and yes, for the most part I have found peace. Now, all I have to do is find fame and fortune to go with it!Mildred Ratched https://www.blogger.com/profile/04705394337558739078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-8918133512956550922011-11-02T16:02:28.878-05:002011-11-02T16:02:28.878-05:00Mildred, may you find peace and healing, and may y...Mildred, may you find peace and healing, and may your strength always serve you well. For victims of sexual abuse, the struggle to find peace can be a long one.<br /><br />If I'm not prying, have you reached out to any people or organizations for help?Ahabhttp://republic-of-gilead.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-24251723543104839382011-11-02T13:28:18.822-05:002011-11-02T13:28:18.822-05:00I believe you and I have talked about this before,...I believe you and I have talked about this before, and I agree with you wholeheartedly.<br /><br />All I want to say today is that you were (and are) fortunate enough to have had a strong inner child that somehow protected you and kept you strong until you were old enough to confront what could have destroyed you so easily if you had been a weak person. I hope you thank her each and every day.<br /><br />I was well into my forties before I told anyone in my family. After doing so, I wondered why I had waited so many years. The earth didn't come to a standstill. Still, something kept me from opening up when I was younger. The reason for the secrecy is what I try to understand, because, for the life of me, I will never understand the actual act and the reason for it.<br /><br />I also wonder if I would have been a different (better, less crazy and black-sheepish) person had it not occurred.jnutshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06348848857787520233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9346548.post-38767556840929800582011-11-02T13:16:25.070-05:002011-11-02T13:16:25.070-05:00I admire your courage to post the trauma and evil ...I admire your courage to post the trauma and evil that was perpetuated against your body, mind and soul. I pray that you find the peace that you so deserve.<br /><br />Muffy LoveAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com