Wednesday, December 18, 2019

MIXED FEELINGS

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Last night my daughter, Christina sent me a text message telling me that my ex-husband, Jim wasn't doing well and probably wouldn't live much longer. Her ex step-brother, Josh had texted her to let her know the news and asked her to pass along the information to me with a copy of a short note I had written him years earlier back in the early 1990's. I wasn't too surprised about the news about Jim because he has never taken care of his health even when he was younger.  Of course, I have mixed feelings about the news and will deal with those feelings over time. Ho! Ho! Ho! 'Tis the season...

I have to admit that I was more surprised that Josh had kept that note than I was about the news about his father. When I read the note, I did so with a "red pen" in hand looking for errors. Of course, I found a few. Go figure!  What stuck out most to me was the part I wrote about God. You see, I am NOT a believer, but Josh is so I must have written that part for his benefit. Mildred has a heart after all! Shhhh! Let that be our little secret because I have a reputation to uphold. What brought a smile to my face were the personal touches that only he and I would know what they meant.  I have to admit the note brought a tear or two to my rather dry eyes.

I vaguely remember writing the note, but the circumstances aren't crystal clear. Old age is a bitch! Obviously, it must have been one of the times when Jim and I parted ways. Josh had finished high school and had started college.  I do feel proud of him because he went on to finish college and he became a doctor. His brother, Jason is also a doctor and his sister, Jamie works in the medical field as well.  I never had a close relationship with Jason and Jamie because they lived in another state with their mother and we only saw them periodically. Josh lived with us. And for the record...Josh was a handful and then some! I always thought he just needed someone to believe in him no matter what and I always tried to be that person.

When he finished college, he came and found me to let me know he had graduated and had been accepted into medical school and would be starting soon. The rest is history...

It's been a long time since I've heard from him and I know the circumstances suck, but I'm glad to know I still am in his thoughts occasionally.


16 comments:

  1. I suspect you are in his thoughts more than occasionally. Which is lovely. Sadly I can't read the note, but that he kept it says volumes.
    Christmas - the happiest time of year. Except for the myriad of people for whom it outsucks Dyson.

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    1. If you click on the note, it doesn't enlarge it?

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    2. Not enough for my early morning blurry eyes. I can read bits of it, but struggle and wimped out. Sorry.

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    3. I can. Thank you. Indeed a note to treasure. Which he obviously did and does.

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    4. Doctor Pack Rat is more like it! lol Actually, it tugged on my heartstrings and made me feel like I still mattered.

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    5. Some tears (which I describe as sweaty eyeballs) are good tears. And I would classify yours today that way.

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  2. "Nothing is constant but change." Great advice to give anyone.

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  3. Interesting. Odd enough, as a writer I've never been one for writing notes. From time to time, even us non-believers mention God. Oh, and I see, Merak is posting on your blog. Soon I will spam him into extinction.

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  4. Nice to know there's a connection there, despite the divorce.

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  5. It's always fascinating to see things from another perspective. As a child from divorce - I always wondered how my mother processed certain things. Loved getting some insight.

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  6. I concur this is a tender mixed feelings moment. Thank you for sharing it.

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  7. you always make me feel like a natural woman. I love that.

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